Would You Consider This a Good Marriage?

[savage1]

I asked this question as an aside in another forum, and thought it might make a good thought provoking thread.
I would like anyone who is interested in responding to be openminded in one way or the other because some of what is considered here applies to my current situation(not the sincerity part for sure).
I realize also that many might be bored with the topic and/or have no interest in it for some any reason; if that is true, fine, just go check out some other thread.
For those who are interested, here is the question as posed yesterday and rewritten a little today:

Consider this:
I, an older guy, who is pretty well off financially speaking, sought a younger wife five years ago and went to another country(in my case Colombia) to seek a great wife reason rather than in the US for a variety of reasons-that is not the issue.
Also lets assume I made a wrong assumption, and the woman I ended up marrying really wasn't sincere as I believe her to be, and the monetary part played at least a part in her marrying me.
Now lets assume for the rest of my life she treats me like a king and as loving, caring, etc. as possible.
Lets say that I die when I am 90, meaning that I would have been married to her for 28 years(we have been married for 3 years and I am 65-do the math).
Now the question is would you say that this marriage was a good marriage, bad marriage, successful marriage, etc. or somewhere in between because we were happy together for 28 years even though part of her motives were monetary?(knowing she would inherit some money after I die-for the record my wife is 25 years younger than I am)?
You can give reasons if you like.
Obviously there are no right or wrong answers here-just something for you guys to think about.

[BettorsChat]

It would depend on how the marriage is going. Meaning during the 28 years together did you communicate, have sex, children, etc. Obviously all couples argue. However, if she chose to stay with you for 28 years and I believe had a child by you then I don't believe she was after your money. If she was after having a child and getting a green card she could divorce you. She would be able to get child support and quite possibly alimony.

[insidethe8thpol]

When is ENOUGH is ENOUGH with this??

If you are 'well off financially' then may I suggest you go out and buy some friends

or

maybe some Alzheimer's medication because you cant seem to remember what the hell is going on with the other 4 or 5 threads you have started in which you have fueled a growing fan club that is not fond of you

[BettorsChat]

When is ENOUGH is ENOUGH with this??

If you are 'well off financially' then may I suggest you go out and buy some friends

or

maybe some Alzheimer's medication because you cant seem to remember what the hell is going on with the other 4 or 5 threads you have started in which you have fueled a growing fan club that is not fond of you

I've said it before and I'll say it again if someone doesn't like a persons post then why bother responding? There isn't a point in responding. Others have already given their opinion's regarding Savage so why continue on in a new thread? There isn't any reason for them to do so.

[insidethe8thpol]

I've said it before and I'll say it again if someone doesn't like a persons post then why bother responding? There isn't a point in responding. Others have already given their opinion's regarding Savage so why continue on in a new thread? There isn't any reason for them to do so.

yet what he has said in this post, he has said in the 4 or 5 others, so what is the point of starting a new thread if it has been said before??


Let me use 1 of your sentences, BC, if I may:






There isnt any reason for him to do so

[BettorsChat]

yet what he has said in this post, he has said in the 4 or 5 others, so what is the point of starting a new thread if it has been said before??


Let me use 1 of your sentences, BC, if I may:






There isnt any reason for him to do so

He's starting a new topic or taking a topic that was discussed in another thread of his and making it a topic by itself.

[kbsooner21]

He's starting a new topic or taking a topic that was discussed in another thread of his and making it a topic by itself.

[savage1]

It would depend on how the marriage is going. Meaning during the 28 years together did you communicate, have sex, children, etc. Obviously all couples argue. However, if she chose to stay with you for 28 years and I believe had a child by you then I don't believe she was after your money. If she was after having a child and getting a green card she could divorce you. She would be able to get child support and quite possibly alimony.

Yes in answer to your question.
I tried to convey this is line 6:
"Now lets assume for the rest of my life she treats me like a king and as loving, caring, etc. as possible".
You make a very good points about the green card, divorce and child support and alimony.
What I really am driving it at here though is the premise that she DIDN'T divorce me and try to get child support and alimony and was a truly wonderful wife and mother for all of the 28 years; also lets accept the premise though it was always at least in her mind that someday she would inherit some money(the reasoning being that she probably would outlive me by quite a few years as I am a lot older);lets say I never suspected it.
Now lets say that somehow you as a outside observer or even better a friend of mine found out somehow(don't ask me how) that money was at least part of the reason she married me and of course before you knew this, you also thought she was a great wife and mother
Now lets say I do die at 90 and she inherits a tidy sum.
Considering all of the factors and criterion YOU consider important in this matter, how in retrospect would you or any one else evaluate my marriage to this lady?

[insidethe8thpol]

Here is the GREAT MARRIAGE I have:



I married a woman with no legs. Why??

That way she could never run out on me



Not too bad for a dumb motherfucker with a mid level high school education with some money

[longnex]

I have a solution. Monte get a Savage forum. That way he can put all his threads in one forum and nobody has to go there. Call it Savage and his cat forum.

[savage1]

Perhaps some of you guys should re-read what I said in the initial post:

I realize also that many might be bored with the topic and/or have no interest in it for some any reason; if that is true, fine, just go check out some other thread.
For those who are interested, here is the question as posed yesterday and rewritten a little today:

[ToDaClub]

or somewhere in between because we were happy together for 28 years even though part of her motives were monetary?

No, I would consider this a mix between human trafficking and prostitution. The end does not justify the means

[vols fan]

Anna Nicole Smith(younger) married billionaire(rich) Howard Marshall(older).She stayed with him till he died(the exact age of 90 like you mentioned before).Would you say this was a great marriage? Kinda seems yall have alot in common

[wayne1218]

Anna Nicole Smith(younger) married billionaire(rich) Howard Marshall(older).She stayed with him till he died(the exact age of 90 like you mentioned before).Would you say this was a great marriage? Kinda seems yall have alot in common

B-I-N-G-O

[ELJUGO]

I think just the fact alone that somewhere inside you feels the need to ask these types of questions to a gambling forum tells me something might not be too pure about your relationship.

If you had a bunch of responses saying "this is still a great marriage" would you feel better about your situation?

Obviously you aren't just "curious", this must apply to how you are feeling, and to answer your question I think this marriage is blah. Worrying about whether you were married for money sucks, but if it's reality get with the program and live it up while you're here and let whoever gets your money worry about that after you're gone.