Would You Consider This a Good Marriage?

[insidethe8thpol]

Your sarcastic and insulting remarks indicate to me that either you didn't take the time to read All of my posts carefully and/or were unable to come to grips with the fact that sometimes hard work and effort do pay off such as in my case.
Instead like folks like you hurl insults and sweeping generalizations which have no basis at least as they apply to ME.
Tell me when you have an understanding of Latin/Colombian cultures and the mindset of an Evangelical Christian and a zillion other relevant things relative to MY venture which I know about and you do NOT and then we will talk.
The proof is in that pal buddy;if you can do as well or have already done as well in the Stares, then congratulations.

Of course I didnt take the time to read all of YOUR posts, I COULDNT LIVE THAT LONG TO DO SO!!

Relevant to your venture or shall we call it an ADVENTURE??

You went out and bought yourself a whole Thanksgiving dinner:

* turkey (wife)
* mashed potatoes (father in law)
* gravy (mother in law)
* veggys (insert # of siblings she has)
* cranberry sauce (nieces and nephews)
* pie/cakes/cookies (aunts & uncles)

I'll bet her parents get a little uncomfortable when they talk about their son in law who is 15 years older than them

[Bill the Thrill]

I bet a LOT more than here. The sickening and fucked up part is that savage has no fucken clue what he is doing.

Remember the Eddie Murphy routine he did on HBO where he brings back the chick from Africa and marries her.
One of the first things she learns from the bitch next door is to say "I WANT HALF EDDIE, I WANT HALF!"

[savage1]

You make monthly payments to her family. Now i'm wondering who is using who in this one!

Taken out of context entirely without referencing my point as to why I send the money and her reluctance to accept it; seriously you and some others here should take some time and read about debating and thus improve your ability to be able to respond to what others say directly directly and without the insulting remarks and foul language you use, obviously because you no of no better way to respond.

[Chado1]

I bet a LOT more than here. The sickening and fucked up part is that savage has no fucken clue what he is doing.

Couldnt agree more. Just a poor ole man getting used thinking he has found true love and happiness. Its sad really sad if you ask me...

[Chado1]

I feel bad for their kid more than anyone...

[insidethe8thpol]

Remember the Eddie Murphy routine he did on HBO where he brings back the chick from Africa and marries her.
One of the first things she learns from the bitch next door is to say "I WANT HALF EDDIE, I WANT HALF!"

I dont want to kiss Aunt Bunny

WTF is 'goony goo goo' ??

They stick their faces in the water and come up with a fish

[Chado1]

This whole situation is too much. What I think makes it even funnier is how Savage keeps rambling on about denying the truth that he bought a wife and is getting used and acts like he as know fucking clue when its as clear as day...hahahahaha...OMG Im in tears again..

Dude is like I did my reasearch and weeded out the bad ones..

We are in love and very happy..

I send her family money..

Savage whenever asking oneself if being used you can always pose the same question to find out:

"What am I getting/receiving in return?" If the answer is no or minimal you do the common sense on your own. Oh wait she is providing you with "love", a "wife", and "marriage"..

[Bill the Thrill]

I dont want to kiss Aunt Bunny

WTF is 'goony goo goo' ??

They stick their faces in the water and come up with a fish

MO FOO FOO

YouTube - Eddie talks about finding a wife in Africa

[PhilJr]

Can I assume that you have a will and your new bride is in it?

[savage1]

Before I went out to do a few errands, I called The Foreign Affair Agency, the one through which I met my wife and spoke to the owner and explained the situation here and if he could provide me some statistics about the divorce rate between American men who went to an agency(not just Foreign Affair)trying to find trying to find a great wife and the overall divorce rate.
Now keep in mind that these stats provided by them(check divorce section) were compiled independently and apply to ALL men of ANY country I believe and the foreign women they married(foreign is defined to mean that the lady resides in another country than the man does).
It does not break it down by country specifically(meaning in my case Colombia stats are not stated statistically(don't know if these are available), but they do give you a pretty good idea of what is going on.
Also, from my point of view they don't consider success rate of guys like me who put a lot of work and effort into this and also do not take account of the fact that my wife is a devout Evangelical Christian.
Several other notes before I post the link:
My wife has a good friend from Colombia who also met and married a man from the US who was also a member of Foreign Affair.
The guy had been married three times before(which itself should have raiseds a red flag);he is in his early 50's and she in mid 30's.
To make a long story short the man turned out to be real jerk and they are in the process of divorce after one year of marriage;I am just trying to be fair here(in this case I am quite sure it was a lot more the guy's fault than the woman;(3 divorces before this marriage tells me a lot).
To be politically correct, I was 60(almost 61) when I first my wife and not 65 as others have said and she was 35.
Here you go and thanks to Monte for researching and posting the divorce stats he did(it will actually be a minute or so before the line is posted, as I forgot to copy it.

http://www.goodwife.com/survey/xcultural_p01.html

[savage1]

Couldnt agree more. Just a poor ole man getting used thinking he has found true love and happiness. Its sad really sad if you ask me...

In all honesty I give you kudos for dealing with your drinking problem and stopping it;that took a lot of will power.
Hopefully you will be able to do the same in your other ventures in life including and most importantly for now GROWING UP!

[savage1]

Phiele-yes of course she is in my will-why wouldn't she?
For the record, I had such confidence in her motive for marrying her (which included her strong religious beliefs), that I didn't consider ONCE the possibility as some advised, of asking her to signa Pre-Nuptial Agreement.

[insidethe8thpol]

Also, from my point of view they don't consider success rate of guys like me who put a lot of work and effort into this and also do not take account of the fact that my wife is a devout Evangelical Christian.

The guy had been married three times before(which itself should have raiseds a red flag);he is in his early 50's and she in mid 30's.

To make a long story short the man turned out to be real jerk and they are in the process of divorce after one year of marriage;I am just trying to be fair here(in this case I am quite sure it was a lot more the guy's fault than the woman;(3 divorces before this marriage tells me a lot).


xcultural_p01

there you go again with your 'hard work' & 'effort'. You must be exhausted. Why dont you contact Foreign Affairs and see if they can give you your own 'special' group of Hard working-Effort causing-Religion basking grooms

So because of this religion, its automatic that a divorce will not occur??

You're trying so hard to be fair, yet you blame it on the man. why??

I know?

Because he didnt put in the 'hard work' - nor did he put in his best 'effort' & his study of 'religion' must have been horrendous according to your standards

[insidethe8thpol]

Phiele-yes of course she is in my will-why wouldn't she?
For the record, I had such confidence in her motive for marrying her (which included her strong religious beliefs), that I didn't consider ONCE the possibility as some advised, of asking her to signa Pre-Nuptial Agreement.

So if 1 day she packs up and tells you that she is leaving and she wants half of everything, will that religion come into play when you mutter the words:

Jesus Christ!!! What the hell is going on here???

[savage1]

there you go again with your 'hard work' & 'effort'. You must be exhausted. Why dont you contact Foreign Affairs and see if they can give you your own 'special' group of Hard working-Effort causing-Religion basking grooms

So because of this religion, its automatic that a divorce will not occur??

You're trying so hard to be fair, yet you blame it on the man. why??

I know?

Because he didnt put in the 'hard work' - nor did he put in his best 'effort' & his study of 'religion' must have been horrendous according to your standards

I trust my wife and she is very selective with whom she chooses as friends.
The fact that the man had been married three times prior to this indicates to me there us a very good chance that he was NOT a good husband.
I know this particular woman also(from the times I have visited Colombia) and to me she seems quite nice and sincere and is ALSO an Evangelical Christian
Based on above it is not a certainty but the odds are pretty good that he is the jerk my wife's friend described to her.
Also, keep in mind that I wouldn't expect many men to put in the effort I did in this successful venture;for one thing most guys have to work and wouldn't have the free time that I did to pursue this-thats fine-they can still met a great lady.
That being said and to play Devil's Advocate, the fact that I did have so much free time and energy to go at this with my alll, certainly improved MY chances of meeting a great lady; from the great results I got, and from my perspective and in retrospect, that is all that matters to me now.