Would You Consider This a Good Marriage?

[savage1]

So if 1 day she packs up and tells you that she is leaving and she wants half of everything, will that religion come into play when you mutter the words:

Jesus Christ!!! What the hell is going on here???

Find out what a devout Evangelical Christian means-she is VERY much involved with her religion here-does not that tell you something about her mindset!
Believing what I do and my confidence in her and my judgment, I would have considered it an insult to ask her to sign a Pre-Nuptial.

[savage1]

I sure hope you guys take the time to check out the divorce stats that I and Monte posted;they are not posed as "decorations" for the site.
Got to run for now.

[wayne1218]

savage, You really think the wife doesn't dream about being with someone younger and not 65?

[insidethe8thpol]

I trust my wife and she is very selective with whom she chooses as friends.
The fact that the man had been married three times prior to this indicates to me there us a very good chance that he was NOT a good husband.

How do you know he didnt get 3 evil woman and they were the cause of it??

I know this particular woman also(from the times I have visited Colombia) and to me she seems quite nice and sincere and is ALSO an Evangelical Christian

So because of her religion, it would be off the table that she could be a liar?? Did you court this woman before selecting your wife??

Based on above it is not a certainty but the odds are pretty good that he is the jerk my wife's friend described to her.

The odds are good without certainty. So once again, based on her religion, she has to be telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth??

Also, keep in mind that I wouldn't expect many men to put in the effort I did in this successful venture;for one thing most guys have to work and wouldn't have the free time that I did to pursue this-thats fine-they can still met a great lady.

So guys that work do not put in the same effort when searching for a mate??

You keep bringing up this 'venture' like you are buying a Strip **** and need to fill up store space

That being said and to play Devil's Advocate, the fact that I did have so much free time and energy to go at this with my alll, certainly improved MY chances of meeting a great lady;

But you siad it only took you a week to choose her?? Thats not much free time to decide, is it??

from the great results I got, and from my perspective and in retrospect, that is all that matters to me now.

yet you started this thread as if you need assurance that what you did was right?? are you feeling guilty or have somekind of second thoughs on your 'venture'??

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[insidethe8thpol]

Find out what a devout Evangelical Christian means-she is VERY much involved with her religion here-does not that tell you something about her mindset!
Believing what I do and my confidence in her and my judgment, I would have considered it an insult to ask her to sign a Pre-Nuptial.

I think Charles Manson was a Christian and look how he so graciously turned out

[Chado1]

savage, You really think the wife doesn't dream about being with someone younger and not 65?

The fact that she is 40 and he is 65 should tell him all he needs to know that he is being used. He obviously holds no common sense towards this issue and definately did not consult with down to earth friends and family prior to buying a wife..

[savage1]

[QUOTE=wayne1218;1674343]savage, You really think the wife doesn't dream about being with someone younger and not 65?


Wayne-in all honesty no;she in fact met many other men along the way, most younger than me, some of whom were better off financially than me, taller and better looking than me, etc.; after dating and talking to them for a while, she decided that they were not what she was looking for.
Values are what is important to her and NOT money;with some women from other countries including Colombia the opposite is true bun NOT her.

[PhilJr]

Phiele-yes of course she is in my will-why wouldn't she?
For the record, I had such confidence in her motive for marrying her (which included her strong religious beliefs), that I didn't consider ONCE the possibility as some advised, of asking her to signa Pre-Nuptial Agreement.

So if she packs up and leaves, her and little Savvy get alimony and child support. If she hangs around until you die, she gets the whole Savvy estate. If she left, you would never just give her half without a fight. After all, you fought keeping a cat in a condo

[insidethe8thpol]

[QUOTE=savage1;1674373]

savage, You really think the wife doesn't dream about being with someone younger and not 65?


Wayne-in all honesty no;she in fact met many other men along the way, most younger than me, some of whom were better off financially than me, taller and better looking than me, etc.; after dating and talking to them for a while, she decided that they were not what she was looking for.
Values are what is important to her and NOT money;with some women from other countries including Colombia the opposite is true bun NOT her.

so could she have chosen you because you are closer to the proverbial dirt nap??

[PhilJr]

[QUOTE=savage1;1674373]

savage, You really think the wife doesn't dream about being with someone younger and not 65?


Wayne-in all honesty no;she in fact met many other men along the way, most younger than me, some of whom were better off financially than me, taller and better looking than me, etc.; after dating and talking to them for a while, she decided that they were not what she was looking for.
Values are what is important to her and NOT money;with some women from other countries including Colombia the opposite is true bun NOT her.

Did she date and talk with the others for a FULL week too?

[wayne1218]

[QUOTE=savage1;1674373]

savage, You really think the wife doesn't dream about being with someone younger and not 65?


Wayne-in all honesty no;she in fact met many other men along the way, most younger than me, some of whom were better off financially than me, taller and better looking than me, etc.; after dating and talking to them for a while, she decided that they were not what she was looking for.
Values are what is important to her and NOT money;with some women from other countries including Colombia the opposite is true bun NOT her.

Were you there when she met these men? No.

Arranged marriages are one big lie savage and you are as GULLIBLE as it gets.

[savage1]

ps In my haste I forgot to include Kaptain for posting the information relative to divorce statistics.
One other quick thing i forgot to mention before I check out for a while(my wife is attending English as a Second Language and I am in charge of the baby):
I have a good friend with whom I worked with for many years before he and I retired in 2003(he is 3 years younger than I am);he also teaches college economics.
Get this:
He was married to a lovely Peruvian woman who also worked with me for many years-a very bright personable lady and she and I got along great also.
Well to make a long story short, these guys had what I thought was a great marriage, have a daughter who now attends Mt. Holyoke College.
It turns out the marriage wasn't so great-they got divorced probably four or five years ago, the reason being that Tomy(my friend) claimed that she put her family(most of whom were now also in the States way ahead of him in priority, and that he just couldn't take it any more(I never heard her side of it);I got along great with both of them, and thats all I care about.
Here is where it gets interesting:
Tony while just chatting on line about something unrelated to dating accidentally stumbled upon a lady with China who was divorced and they started chatting and then chatted some more on line.
They saw a lot in each other and fell in love.
Tony went to China and eventually got married to her.
She is now over here and they are doing well according to Tony.
The lady is now attending English Class (on a beginning level) and Tony has been studying Chinese to make it easier to communicate.
As I stated somewhere in the last few days, The Peruvian woman, knowing me very well after all of the years she worked with me and obviously understanding the Peruvian culture, is the one who steered me to Colombia;she has some married friends who are Colombian and thought that a Colombian woman would be great for me.
Back later got to watch the baby.
ps Tony and his Chinese bride have about a 15 or 16 year age difference.

[BigWeiner]

To answer you're original question, would you consider this a good marriage. The answer is, I don't consider it a marriage. Shit, you could do research on a goat and say you got married to it, but it wouldn't be legal and neither should this. Greasy short dudes that can't meet girls shouldn't be able to take advantage of disadvantaged women from other countries.

[BigWeiner]

ps In my haste I forgot to include Kaptain for posting the information relative to divorce statistics.
One other quick thing i forgot to mention before I check out for a while(my wife is attending English as a Second Language and I am in charge of the baby):
I have a good friend with whom I worked with for many years before he and I retired in 2003(he is 3 years younger than I am);he also teaches college economics.
Get this:
He was married to a lovely Peruvian woman who also worked with me for many years-a very bright personable lady and she and I got along great also.
Well to make a long story short, these guys had what I thought was a great marriage, have a daughter who now attends Mt. Holyoke College.
It turns out the marriage wasn't so great-they got divorced probably four or five years ago, the reason being that Tomy(my friend) claimed that she put her family(most of whom were now also in the States way ahead of him in priority, and that he just couldn't take it any more(I never heard her side of it);I got along great with both of them, and thats all I care about.
Here is where it gets interesting:
Tony while just chatting on line about something unrelated to dating accidentally stumbled upon a lady with China who was divorced and they started chatting and then chatted some more on line.
They saw a lot in each other and fell in love.
Tony went to China and eventually got married to her.
She is now over here and they are doing well according to Tony.
The lady is now attending English Class (on a beginning level) and Tony has been studying Chinese to make it easier to communicate.
As I stated somewhere in the last few days, The Peruvian woman, knowing me very well after all of the years she worked with me and obviously understanding the Peruvian culture, is the one who steered me to Colombia;she has some married friends who are Colombian and thought that a Colombian woman would be great for me.
Back latergot to watch the kid.

I guess this kinda of stuff is normal for you and your "friends". Everyone of my friends, that is married, met a girl face to face, dated for a while and fell in love, the only research they did, was having sex, and making sure they were compatible. Hard to believe that your buddy who meet someone in China playing D and D online got divorced. It's shocking.

[wayne1218]

I guess this kinda of stuff is normal for you and your "friends". Everyone of my friends, that is married, met a girl face to face, dated for a while and fell in love, the only research they did, was having sex, and making sure they were compatible. Hard to believe that your buddy who meet someone in China playing D and D online got divorced. It's shocking.

It's also funny how neither spoke the other language but they fell in love online, then he went to china? What, with an interpreter in tow? Fucken LOSER!