Bad news from TMess...

[jcindaville]

Damn T, I hate to hear that. Life is often not fair, and this is a horrible thing. Put your faith in Christ and thru him all things are possible. Take some time to reflect on the important things in life, were always here to help with words of encouragement.

John

[griffey_mojo]

Tmess~

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your girl. What a terrible thing to go through. You will only be a stronger and better person having lived through this. Take care buddy

Nate

[kev122]

Tmess Sorry to hear about that. Things will get better... Just stay positive!

[Bill the Thrill]

Sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your girlfriend in this time of need.

[BettorsChat]

I posted a while back about my and my girlfriend expecting our first baby....I regret to inform you that last week she experienced some complications with the pregnancy and we lost the baby. I know that this is common among pregnancies but it has just affected me more then most. My situation is a little more complex then most. My girlfriend lives in Puerto Rico and she was going to move to LA to be with me when the baby was born. After we lost the baby she took it worse then me and said she wanted nothing to do with me anymore. I feel horrible...one day I had a beautiful girl I was going to marry and a little one on the way...and now I have nothing. Havn't posted any picks in a while and don't know when I will, but I wish you all good luck...

I'm sorry to hear about this!

You may need to give your GF some time as i'm sure it will take her a while to let go of at least some of the pain of losing the child. She needs to be reminded though that its neither of the 2 of you's fault.

[crswir]

Tmess,

I'm sincerely sorry to here about your tragedy. Life can be very cruel sometimes and I'm sure it will take you and her some time to get through this. I'm sure once the initial shock is over she will reconsider her position and things will work out between you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

John

[ChuckLazar]

T.....Me and my wife lost 3 children over our many years together...She had 2 tubular births which to this day has effected her pschologically...The first was when we were living together....She wanted to split up, but instead we seek-ed counseling which help put everything back in perspective..Things will happen in your life and you will find out sometimes that you have no control of certain situations.......Seek help because it will only keep you from doing something you might regret, and help to control your emotions and go on with life......And try to have her go with you, if all possible.....If she doesn't want to, maybe she wasn't really going to move in with you to begin with...Keep strong and be the one to get your life in order and if you really want her, go to her face to face and have a talk about what she really wants to do...Talking face to face with have more of an impact, than over the phone...

[ScrantonKid]

TMess...thoughts and prayers are with you.Time is always a healer of many wounds, but sometimes it does not come so quickly. Contact your girlfriend and show her that you love and care for her, and tell her that you will always be there for her.If she does not respond in a positive way, give her some more time.Life is never easy...but than again, who said it was going to be easy?
You have not failed in any way, my friend.In fact, you are a smart individual for sharing your thoughts and your problems with others. Never underestimate the power of love...continue to be the person you were before this unfortunate event, and love will conquer all.Trust me...I have had my share of unfortunate events, and just when I thought that I felt like giving up,WHAM!, I felt the power of caring friends.Please respond, if and when you feel up to it...in the meantime,my thoughts and prayers are with you and your girlfriend.

[GaDawg00]

Sorry to hear about it....have a little one on the way myself and all I pray for everyday is a healthy wife and baby...it's amazing how these things change your perspective from less important things....

[SustainDan]

Tmess, your a great guy....keep your head up, and comfort your wife because she should be the most important part of your life..the next child you experience willbe healthier and youll love him more than you could ever expect.
Good luck buddy and you and your wife will be in my prayers
Dan

[RJeremy]

Wow, so sorry to hear that. Makes us all realize that there's way more important things in life.......

I'm still confused as to why she doesn't want anything to do with you though? You don't have to explain if you don't want to......

My prayers are with you both.

[TMess]

I want to thank everyone for there kind thoughts and well wishes. I see that unfortuneately some of you have experienced this same situation. I've been a BC member for over a year now, and you guys have been great...I can't thank you all enough for the support.
I've been trying to do all I can for my girlfriend. I spoke with her last night and she is still having a very tough time. These last few years have been tough enough on her dealing with this long distance relationship since I moved back to L.A......and I think this miscarrage just pushed her over the edge.
For myself I have been doing ok...still down but am keeping busy by working a lot. I hope to join you all again capping games soon. I thank you all agian.
-Tony

[CheCheBoFumbe]

T. stay in touch, get yourself together and come back strong. Sounds like a lot to deal with but you can do it.

[jcindaville]

Tony, thank you for sharing. I can see that you are young. Please email Spark and i would be more than happy to share similar stories with you. Take care brother, life is a marathon, not a sprint

[meaiken]

Man, That's tough...

I lost my 1st pregnancy (well, my gf at the time)

I took it as a sign to leave her b/c the pregnancy was an accident. However, It was really tough. Got used to the idea of being a father. I never left my gf and got a beautiful Baby girl who is almost 4.

Not with the mother and she's a huge BITCH.

Bottom line, chin up, things will be better.
___________

My parents also lost a child stalle-born 2 days before the due date. That's rough. But the got a set of twins out of it afterword. (like they needed the twins after already having 4 kids)