Would You Consider This a Good Marriage?

[savage1]

I also don't have to pay her family $200 a month to keep her and she doesn't need classes to understand me. To each their own but falling in love? Please!

I don't HAVE to pay her family, and stated she doesn't want to take the money;she wants to work.
I send the money because I love my wife, can afford to send her family money, and because it makes me feel good about myself both emotionally and spiritually.

[savage1]

That's because a lot of couples are married for the wrong reasons or simply not committed as they should be. Plain & simple.

I was engaged to 3 different women in my 20's and i never made it to the alter with any of them. Things just never felt right after the engagement. I was with this one 6 years before proposing and after being engaged for 3 years, we tied the knot (14 months ago). I am like night & day with her compared to this forum with the guys. We tried thinking about the fights we have had over the last 10 years and we couldn't think of one. Our friends think it is crazy and some say "It isn't healthy not fighting". Really? I thought it wasn't healthy to fight all the time. I have been in those relationships too. We never ever fight because we truly are on the same page 99% of the time and the other % can go either way because we don't think the little things are worth fighting about. I post porn pics here and she sees and laughs, i gamble, she asks who "We" got. I could not have found a better partner.

savage wants his life on a forum on the net and he wants it all public, it will be public. And when he asks these questions, he will get blunt answers.

See, nobody cares that savage is with who he is. The problem is that he keeps explaining it like it was love at 1st site or not a purchase. Please, look at what it cost him to get and keep her. She basically went through an interview to get him and her lottery ticket out of hell was savage. Good for both of them but people are sick of him being dillusional on his marriage. Let's face it, she had a contract for the 1st three years and on and on and on. He acts like it was a chance meeting and they fell in love when in fact, he researched love and that is impossible based on the definition of true love. At least most of our definitions on it.

If you want to keep believing what you said and COMPLETE ignore what I said, so be it.
In my heart I did the right thing and have the proof living in my house;hopefully your marriage is as good as mine

[savage1]

You also have to look at what they are giving up. It's not as easy as people think it is. They have to leave their family and friends behind to come to a foreign place that they don't know. Family values in Foreign countries are typically a higher priority than in the USA. Meaning that most families live together until the children are married, get together all of the time etc.

And there are women in the USA looking for men outside of the USA as well.

The bottom line comes down to whether or not Savage is happy and not what we think (even though he's asking ?'s).

Monte-I agree with everything, and the question was asked merely as a philosophical one(as I used in comparison like night, If there was a beautiful sunset in the wilderness but nobody saw it, was there really a beautiful sunset?).

[savage1]

Sounds like she and you made a decision based on race.

Would that not make you and her racist?

Seems like a logical conclusion.

Not very liberal of you Savage.

Please explain this more carefully if you get a chance.

[savage1]

Of course MM was the best of all. He is the only one who sided with you. You REALLY are amazing savage!

Try going with the consensus some time-the game where just about everyone agrees on the side for a while and see if you come out ahead or behind.

[mavskidd02]

Why? So savage can start a 5th thread? Seriously guys, is it hurting anyone? savage seems like he is having a blast and there is nothing else to do around here.

Because like all of his recent threads, it is pointless and more importantly is doing no body any good.

[mavskidd02]

If savage asks to close it then I will close it.

[wayne1218]

If you want to keep believing what you said and COMPLETE ignore what I said, so be it.
In my heart I did the right thing and have the proof living in my house;hopefully your marriage is as good as mine

Mine is probably much better. We met naturally and no classes are needed to understand each other. People do not assume i'm her father when we are out either.

[savage1]

Easy Dr. Phil, do you really think I know how old you were when your kid was born? I was ballparking that age but now that you just told me you'll be 79 fricken years old when your kid is in his sophomore year of high school...I only had one friend who was like that and I can't tell you how much it sucked and how embarrassed he was by it. Do you ever even consider that you'll be a raisen right when your kid is gonna be entering his prime years of high school?

Then can I conclude thaat since I have stated my age a number of times and also stated that my son will be one next months and that he was born last year, that perhaps you haven't all the posts including perhaps some where I explained other things about my venture in finding a great wife and the reasons I did what I did?
If my assumption is correct, then perhaps I can conclude that YOU are not in a very good position to judge my venture.
Got to get some food.
Back perhaps later.

[wayne1218]

Because like all of his recent threads, it is pointless and more importantly is doing no body any good.

Speak for yourself. Some of us are having fun with it. Seriously, is it ruining your night or something? What's the big deal.

[wayne1218]

Your Braves scored 15 runs. Go drink a beer and celebrate!!!

[mavskidd02]

Speak for yourself. Some of us are having fun with it. Seriously, is it ruining your night or something? What's the big deal.

It's not a big deal, I never said it was. I think it's distracting and stupid, not to mention it bumps threads ABOUT SPORTS down the board each time. And I'm not the only one who thinks so.

By your logic, why ever close any thread?

If you need to keep it open, go ahead, but I think you and Savage are the only ones who really give a shit anymore.

Just giving my input, and mine is, "close the thread." Not that it matters, do what you wanna' do.

[wayne1218]

It's not a big deal, I never said it was. I think it's distracting and stupid, not to mention it bumps threads ABOUT SPORTS down the board each time. And I'm not the only one who thinks so.

By your logic, why ever close any thread?

If you need to keep it open, go ahead, but I think you and Savage are the only ones who really give a shit anymore.

Just giving my input, and mine is, "close the thread." Not that it matters, do what you wanna' do.

It is in a forum here and it is non gambling. If it gets bumped, it gets bumped. Usually threads get bumped when they are very active and this one is. It doesn't matter if 2 people are talking or 10 ... and we are far from the only 2 talking in that thread.

We have also closed a 100 threads here before mavs. We have reasons why we do and unless savage wants it closed (The thread starter), there is no need to close it. He loves talking and if it gets to him, he'll tell us to lock it.

[garth]

I am certainly glad I read 10 or 12 of the 200+ posts in this thread. I feel confident that I now have all the insight I've been missing to make my marriage of 36 years a happy one for my few remaining days on Earth.

[wayne1218]

I am certainly glad I read 10 or 12 of the 200+ posts in this thread. I feel confident that I now have all the insight I've been missing to make my marriage of 36 years a happy one for my few remaining days on Earth.

36 years???

WoW ... Congrats man!