Harold Reynolds fired!!

[savage1]

I admit some of my feelings are because I am older and have been around the block a few times and have seen a lot;thus my perspective might be just a bit different from someone younger. It doesn't mean I am right;it simply means as stated that I look at things differently and most importantly with a sense of priorities.

[CheechB03]

I can't be sure, but i'm going to go out on a limb and say there are a lot of divorced/unmarried guys in this thread.

What's that got to do with the price of eggs in China? NOTHING

I'm divorced. I'm unmarried. My divorce had nothing to do with flirting or such. My ex-wife and I are great friends. We have three daughters together. We make better friends than husband/wife.

[rented mule]

This is the problem in a nutshell

What constitutes flirting? My ex-GF often accused me of flirting. I wasn't. Should I stifle my outgoing, good sense of humor personality? Of course not. Isn't that what she fell in love with? Of course it is. It's unfair for any person to ask and expect another to change.

It's a problem for you. Not me. I go to work to do my job. That's what i'm there for.

[10DimeBry]

What's that got to do with the price of eggs in China? NOTHING

I'm divorced. I'm unmarried. My divorce had nothing to do with flirting or such. My ex-wife and I are great friends. We have three daughters together. We make better friends than husband/wife.

thats because you drop too many F bombs.....LMAO

[CheechB03]

That's your opinion and it's an ignorant assumption. It's called respect. I'm not going to embarrass my wife when she comes to an office function by having every girl in the office know that i've hit on them and collectively they're snickering at my wife.

My wife doesn't hassle me about placing a bet or two, she doesn't hassle me about playing golf on the weekends, she never hassled me about spending 7 hours on a Sunday playing a baseball doubleheader, she doesn't hassle me about being glued to the TV every Sunday during football season and she's a great mother to my kids.

She insists that I respect our relationship by not engaging in improper behavior outside of the house. More specifically flirting with other women and making a spectacle of myself.

Why would I begrudge her that request with everything else she does for me?

You are overlooking one very important factor. A women's security or lack of. My ex-wife was secure in herself and our relationship. She appreciated my personality. She tells our daughter often "dad has charisma".

My ex-GF on the other hand is insecure. She was often threatened by the same charisma.

[CheechB03]

It's a problem for you. Not me. I go to work to do my job. That's what i'm there for.

It's not a problem for me. At all. I wasn't only refering to the work force. I'm talking about everyday life. For me it would be extremely boring going about life not interacting with others.

[CheechB03]

I go to work to do my job. That's what i'm there for.

Are you working now?

[rented mule]

Are you working now?

Actually, no. I took a vacation day today. Thanks for being concerned, though.

[savage1]

You are overlooking one very important factor. A women's security or lack of. My ex-wife was secure in herself and our relationship. She appreciated my personality. She tells our daughter often "dad has charisma".

My ex-GF on the other hand is insecure. She was often threatened by the same charisma.

That summarizes quite well what I think when one mentions security;in many instances by my way of thinking, it is the insecurity of the person who is upset at her spouse's flirting which is at issue rather than whether he/she did it or not and/or how much flirting he/she actually did.

[rented mule]

You are overlooking one very important factor. A women's security or lack of. My ex-wife was secure in herself and our relationship. She appreciated my personality. She tells our daughter often "dad has charisma".

My ex-GF on the other hand is insecure. She was often threatened by the same charisma.

So you're grouping all women who don't want their husbands/boyfriends to flirt with other women into a basket of "insecure women"?

Trust me....my wife is not insecure. This is just her "thing" and if it makes our relationship better for me to comply, then i'm all for that.

[CheechB03]

That summarizes quite well what I think when one mentions security;in many instances by my way of thinking, it is the insecurity of the person who is upset at her spouse's flirting which is at issue rather than whether he/she did it or not and/or how much flirting he/she actually did.

Savage, my ex-GF was extremely insecure. She was really clueless. Some of the ladies I was accused of flirting with I found completely unattractive. She often confused flirting with being friendly.

[CheechB03]

So you're grouping all women who don't want their husbands/boyfriends to flirt with other women into a basket of "insecure women"?

Trust me....my wife is not insecure. This is just her "thing" and if it makes our relationship better for me to comply, then i'm all for that.

As I asked earlier what's your and your wives definition of flirting? If I'm at a restaurant and I'm joking with the female waitress is that flirting? Or is it being friendly?

I will group all people who have a problem with their spouse interacting with a member of the opposite sex as being insecure.

[savage1]

I can understand a woman instinctively being jealous if she finds out or sees her husband flirting.
However, I think in most cases if she has confidence in herself, her husband and the marriage in general, she will push her initial feelings aside and come to the conclusion that it is a whole lot to do about nothng.

[CheechB03]

I can understand a woman instinctively being jealous if she finds out or sees her husband flirting.
However, I think in most cases if she has confidence in herself, her husband and the marriage in general, she will push her initial feelings aside and come to the conclusion that it is a whole lot to do about nothng.

Ageed!

That's why I'll group all people in the insecure basket if they are troubled with their spouse interacting with a member of the opposite sex.

Should a male interact only with other males? Should a female interact with only other ladies? Of course not. It would make for a pretty boring life.

[rented mule]

As I asked earlier what's your and your wives definition of flirting? If I'm at a restaurant and I'm joking with the female waitress is that flirting? Or is it being friendly?

I will group all people who have a problem with their spouse interacting with a member of the opposite sex as being insecure.

I've "defined" it in previous posts in this thread. If it's something that I wouldn't do while she's in my presence or that I wouldn't tell her about, it's probably not right. I joke around with women in front of her all the time. It's not a question of being cut off from the opposite sex. In this case (Harold Reynolds) it's very likely an ongoing pattern of inappropriate behavior that he's doing heavy duty damage control on with his wife right now.