Wwyd? Regarding porn addiction and lying.

[Grandfit]

im a regular user and dont want to post under real screen name.
So my partner of 12 years has a porn addiction as i recently discovered. He watches everyday multiple times and even at work, basically whenever he can. He thought he had deleted his history but obviously didnt. I used his phone as mine was flat and seen his google history, i confronted him and he denied it so i dug deeper and found the full extent of his porn use. Hes been making fake accounts and looking at cam girls aswell. He has promised not to go on porn all throughout our 12 year relationship as he knows im not ok with it, but continues to do it and lie. Problem is hes been watching it right before we have sex, he cant get an erection without it and if he does its limp before anything happens. He still doesnt see this as a problem.
Any advice would be great. Also we are currently on a break due to everything.

[GraceMetcal]

One thing to consider is encouraging your partner to seek professional help, whether it's through therapy or a rehab program. It's also important to take care of yourself during this time, as it can be emotionally draining.

[Clarerisa]

Hey there! I'm sorry to hear about your partner's struggles with porn addiction and lying. It's understandable that this is a difficult and painful situation for you both. It's important to remember that addiction is a complex issue requiring professional help.
One option you may want to consider is seeking a rehab essex specializing in addiction. They can offer tailored treatment plans and support for both you and your partner throughout the recovery process. It may also be helpful to seek counseling or therapy to work through any trust issues and learn healthy communication skills.

[choppanami]

Honestly, the biggest issue here sounds like the lying and broken trust rather than the porn itself. If he’s hiding it, denying it, and it’s affecting intimacy in your relationship, then it clearly has become a serious problem. A lot of people only start changing when they personally admit there’s an issue, and right now he doesn’t seem to be there yet. Taking a break may actually give you both space to decide what you truly want moving forward. Counseling or therapy could help if he’s willing to be honest and work on it. Also, distracting yourself with hobbies, creative projects, or even experimenting with tools like an ai video generator no restrictions can sometimes help reduce stress while you process everything.